Updated: Jul 1, 2020
Noun: “the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness”
From the moment our children come into our lives, we’re teaching them. We teach them how to reach practical goals and we try to equip them to deal with the ups and downs of life. But somewhere along the parenting journey a switch flicks and we begin to learn from our kids. From my experience it really kicks in at the 11-14-year old stage. Which is probably why I’ve got a lot of time for this age group and why I love writing for them.
With a 19-, 15- and 12-year-old in my house, I have plenty of people to teach me stuff, like how to use my tech more efficiently. But over the last few weeks I’ve been watching my kids walk in resilience. And it’s a beautiful thing to observe. Resilience isn’t a word we usually hear much about, but this has definitely been a year to test it.
I’ve been impressed with the resilience my kids have demonstrated in all the challenges of the last few months. Whether dealing with ending primary school without any of the fun activities kids usually get to enjoy. Wanting to get back to school full-time but not sure when that will happen (there’s a plan A and a plan B for Scotland for August, but we won’t know till nearer the time which one it will be). Changing career aspirations and what that looks like when lockdown will continue, to some extent, for the foreseeable future. There has been resilience at each and every stage. And I am so proud of how my kids are dealing with it all.
Resilience is an amazing quality, but it can’t work on its own. To really thrive, it needs to partner up with hope. I think many of us have struggled with hope this year. But it is there. We won’t all find it at the same time or in the same place; but it is there.
My favourite verse for hope is Isaiah chapter 40 verse 31: “but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.”
With hope you don’t just survive, you thrive.
P.S. Hope and resilience will be featuring in a couple of my future books. For now, I’m watching my kids walk through this season and continuing to learn from them.